Nobody asked me, though I realized later with a mix of horror (are we that old?) and pride that I'd been married longer than anyone else in the room, but MY tip would have been to simply resist the occasional homicidal urges. If you are very lucky, the rest will sort itself out.
Here's to 14 years of laughter, tears, & only occasional body dump scouting!
I couldn't find a recent picture of us together so here's a look at what we did together. *smirk*