Monday, October 15, 2012

15/31 - 13 years

Thirteen years ago
I married a man, better
and worse, heartbreak, love.

October 15th is also, coincidently, National Pregnancy and Infant Loss day.  If you scroll about half way down the saddest list that ever was, you'll see Brennan's name, submitted in pre-blog days.  It surprises me every year but it's also oddly fitting.  Not to suggest our entire marriage is anchored to this one sad event, but when you leap into a happy relationship, in beautiful sunny San Diego, with time, money, and thinner thighs all on your side, can you really know what will happen later under pressure?  Can you be sure, really really sure, your significant other won't crack and run when the sky turns black and you can't swim for all the tears?  We did not necessarily survive with any dignity, but the world kept on spinning, the sun rose, and we kept waking up next to each other.  Eventually we laughed again, together.  Some breaks really do heal stronger.  I love you, Matt - Happy Anniversary.

Now please get your nose fixed so you stop snoring.


  1. This. This was beautiful.

    Real.Honest. And still beautiful.

    It's a hard road to tow, is it not? Most especially when the waters get rough and you are just trying to stay afloat. Fighting the tide as an individual and somehow, someway, stay cohesive.

    Like I said. Beautiful. Congratulations.

  2. Oh goodness, I didn't know. I'm sorry for your loss. Happy that you both survived, kept on waking up together, and found laughter again. Happy Anniversary and many more of those for years to come!

    1. Thanks. I was 37 weeks and a little piece of amniotic tissue wrapped around his cord.

  3. Happy anniversary! What a beautiful, bittersweet post.

    You can never really know, can you? It's amazing when a marriage survives, and when the partners both still love each other and feel stronger and better by being together. I'm happy for you two!

  4. Wonderful post K. Love ya... so sorry about Brennan.
    Now I know why we are friends...(marriage part).
    Happy anniversary!

  5. Happy Anniversary! You two are amazing. <3

  6. Thanks to you all. Celebratory pizza will be this weekend 'cause we're fancy like that.

  7. Love this. Y'all deserve the best. Get some extra cheese and send me the bill.

    Just for the cheese though. You know I ain't got no job!